Bullies exist in every grade in school; it is just a fact of life. Our job at Newbury Park Martial Arts Center is to help increase confidence and awareness in our youth, and practice role playing under pressure. If a To-Shin Do NPMACstudent is caught in a bully situation, our student will have the talents handy to discover a way to safety. Follow these 3 tips for ways a student may cope with a bully at school:
Tip number 1: Use your voice. Confidently telling the bully to "Stop! Stay back!" has an enduring impression. Naturally, one must match a confident posture with the confident words. But an open-handed stop position of the hands gives the right signal to the bully- to stop and leave the situation. Once the bully has taken a step backwards, the student should leave the area and find an adult.
Tip number 2: Use your hand. You may be shocked by how often the gesture of a hand shake is returned instantly. A robust hand shake might be just what the bully needed to turn from not right to right. Match the hand shake with words of confidence that prevent blame for the moment- like 'let's not argue, it's easier to get along'.
Tip number 3: Use your wits. Saying something confusing to the bully may just give you the opening wanted to exit the difficult situation. This is a fun drill to practice at home and will grant the student to form their own trouble slogan. At the dojo, "I like Capt. Crunch" and "Purple Bananas" appear to be all time favourites. The key to this strategy is when the bully is left temporarily confused, the scholar is gone like the wind.
Parents: Youth need to be ready to pull from one of the 3 strategies for handling violence avoidance at the spur of the moment, under pressure. This is tough for adults, not to mention children. Having the ability to practice in a safe and fun setting with specifics under consideration are essential components for success. Results come with specific guidance and confidence build on good technique and quality instruction. Role playing with your children at home supports the development and growth of the ability to make choices under pressure.
Tip number 1: Use your voice. Confidently telling the bully to "Stop! Stay back!" has an enduring impression. Naturally, one must match a confident posture with the confident words. But an open-handed stop position of the hands gives the right signal to the bully- to stop and leave the situation. Once the bully has taken a step backwards, the student should leave the area and find an adult.
Tip number 2: Use your hand. You may be shocked by how often the gesture of a hand shake is returned instantly. A robust hand shake might be just what the bully needed to turn from not right to right. Match the hand shake with words of confidence that prevent blame for the moment- like 'let's not argue, it's easier to get along'.
Tip number 3: Use your wits. Saying something confusing to the bully may just give you the opening wanted to exit the difficult situation. This is a fun drill to practice at home and will grant the student to form their own trouble slogan. At the dojo, "I like Capt. Crunch" and "Purple Bananas" appear to be all time favourites. The key to this strategy is when the bully is left temporarily confused, the scholar is gone like the wind.
Parents: Youth need to be ready to pull from one of the 3 strategies for handling violence avoidance at the spur of the moment, under pressure. This is tough for adults, not to mention children. Having the ability to practice in a safe and fun setting with specifics under consideration are essential components for success. Results come with specific guidance and confidence build on good technique and quality instruction. Role playing with your children at home supports the development and growth of the ability to make choices under pressure.
About the Author:
Kriss Hurdle is 1 of Newbury Park Martial Arts Center. She is a 4th degree Black Belt in To-Shin Do and proud Mom of two excellent children.
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